Dear Abba - I Think My Carry... isn't!

DEAR ABBA: I recently learned that my carry of 20 minutes is a support. I never suspected and I am stunned (and not because the centaur hoof stomped me while I was jungling.)

I have laned with him since we met. I still do. I have never been interested in anyone else. We have three kills and five assists to our name and we are winning the lane for our team.

I learned his secret when he smoked up and rotated middle to gank, ward, and deward while I was busy denying creeps. Eventually I confronted him and he told me everything. He has been supporting since before we laned. He assured me he has never done anything that could have caused him to steal farm.

I'm lost about what my next step should be. I'm in my late 10's. Starting over isn't something I ever considered. I'm seeing the side shop owner who suggested it might be simpler to consider myself a roamer.

I have no interest in laning with my carry again, but being apart from him terrifies me. I feel like my entire jungle's been warded and there are no good creeps to enchant.

Have you any suggestions?

- Helpless in Dire Safelane

DEAR HELPLESS: Your jungle is not 'warded' and you're not 'helpless'. You're probably in shock, knowing that your carry deceived you from the time you met him. That's understandable.

My advice is to do nothing until you regain some sense of balance.

Finding that smoke rotation was no accident. Consciously or unconsciously, your carry wanted you to see it.

That you no longer want to lane with him isn't surprising. Some things to consider: Does he still want to lane with you? How do you feel about laning with anyone? Is your carry involved with more than one hero or just one? And does he want to continue laning together?

Some supports (and carries) remain laned to their semi-carry partners. Others marry people they know are supports. I do not agree with your shop owner that you should 'consider yourself a roamer,' unless you want to be laned with the neutrals.

Before making any decision about your future, you should contact the Good Lanes Network. It's a confidential support network of current or former solid-role heroes in a lane with semi-carries or flexible role partners. It helps single-role heroes cope constructively with the coming-out crisis and assists mixed-role couples and their minions to build bridges of understanding. I wish you luck on your journey.